Self love is the biggest virtue one can gift oneself. Research indicates that over 90% of the population don’t love themselves…reason being, that they don’t know what self love is!
We have had many books talk about this contemporary issue and those of you who attend self development trainings are not foreign to this terminology. However, this is not a concept that can be taught, it’s a feeling one has to experience!
Being a Corporate Trainer and having facilitated a host of workshops over past ten years, I too thought that I understand what loving oneself means, until recently, when I fell ill at a meditation retreat. It was only then that I contacted all my inner powers to heal myself. I knew then that the other name for self love is self healing. Needless to state, being in love with self is such a feeling that cannot be expressed in words.
Most of us are sleep-walking and are blind to our respective purposes that have got all of us together on this planet. However, being a victim of our patterns, we may deny that this is true about us, but deep within this is the reality of every person. Only when we accept the reality, can we see beyond and reach the solution long awaiting us. Once we get in touch with this wisdom, there is no looking back…it’s the end of misery. My sincere urge to all is to look within ourselves, really deep to get in touch with the divine light safely lit in the center of our hearts. The wisest thing to do is believe in such a possibility for which you will have to break away from the shackles of your concept of security.
The question next is ‘How’? The answer is very simple…first and foremost it requires you to keep an open mind towards learning other ways and accepting that you need to look afresh at the existing situations. You are sitting with a heap of problems on your head, the burden of which is getting on you and it is time you offload them….do you want to offload?
If Yes, I will take you through a journey of understanding self, the destination to which is loving oneself …so we move from US to LS…If you think you are ready and it is your divine call to explore the beautiful being you are, you have hit the right blog. I welcome you to the paradise of love, pure love, divine light and bliss….come along…
Love & Light
Naz
11 comments:
Love-ly Naz, Nandini...
I am tempted to quote one of your lovely Shayaris..
Jab jab maine khud ko khhoya
Tab tab maine khuda ko paaya
Jab girne lage parde ahem ke
Tab khulne lage darwaze rahem ke
Am so happy to see this blog of yours.
This theme touched me first when I experienced the work of Gay Hendricks www.hendricks.com who has written many beautiful books- all with this as the central theme- the first one being, 'Learning to love yourself'
In my experience this has been tough- am making progress I sense.
The other pieces of work that are very close to this theme..
- Byron Katie- 'Loving what is', 'I need your love, is that true?' and the masterpiece, A thousand names for joy www.thework.com
- Louise Hay - You can heal your life.
Thanks
Kiran
www.eternalelearning.com
Dear Kiran,
mil jaate hai ajnabi dost bankar,
phir ban jaati hai daatan bichadne par...
aur yaadon me basera karte hai hum aur tum..
kabhi muskurake, to kabhi dil gaye tanha gumsum..
...par darmiyaan ki dor mazboot banti chali..
jaise apne chaman me khushboo bikherti chali..
yehi kahaani hai tumhari humari...
suno zara phoolon ki zubaani...
simte mehke kudrat usme..
chalo khile hum bhi apne dil me...
aur jaane ek hi raah se nikli dishaayon ko..
ki liya jab zikr-e-kash, tabhi aaye apne basme..
Love
Naz
Loving one self is not "humane"...that was a part of our conditioning.We always put others before us; and spend our lives in search of love but; invain..We always procastinate when it comes to ourselves but tomorrow never comes...
But if what we seek is something beyond, something that endures within us, we must give priority to love and happiness. We are willing to invest time and money in the pursuit of material gains and thereby happiness. But, we don't do the same to establish love, happiness and peace of mind. If only each of us could pray to alleviate the pain and suffering of others, we could make that vital connection with the real us.
Love
Lakhsmi
Doesnt loving yourself involve forgiving yourself of all the things you think you are guilty of?
Intresting, when you think from a an escapist point of view, you basically can do anything hurt anyone and break anything and yet, love yourself....
_Paro
Dear Paro,
You got it right, self love is about forgiving yourself of all the things you think you are ‘guilty’ of.
However, being self forgiving is not the same as being an escapist. Forgiveness allows you to take responsibility for your actions, learn your lessons and move on. It doesn’t allow you to condemn yourself or make you feel guilty anymore.
When you truly forgive yourself, you truly love yourself and vice versa. And out of your self love, your awareness increases and things change for good. Next time, before you hurt somebody, your inner voice shall stop you, because you know how it feels to feel guilty and thus, you will not choose to feel the same anymore. You will give yourself the best feelings and outcomes henceforth.
This is how the actions of any person, emerging from self love start generating benefits for others as well. This is how relations improve…
Loving Self
Naz
Naz,
Just read the two posts.
They are good!The subject is great, needs wider exposure.
Take it step by step.Where possible, use a comment as a subject for the next blog.Try not to answer a comment by a comment!
If I tear life apart into actions performed daily, weigh how many are done for self Vs how many are done for others. The split is 99.99-0.01%! So why the extra label of loving self when that is exactly what motivates all the 99.99% actions anyway?
To me love has become an outcome, the source of which lies in the honestly with which I deal with my daily acts whether it is completeing my to-do list at work, leaving unfinshed tasks because I know no one is going to ask me, lying to get out of an uncomfortable truth or telling someone something because that is what they prefer hearing. The Truth has become a source and the outcome..... a sense of balance knowing acha hua ya bura, maine sach bola aur sach ka hi sahara liya. You may end up guilty for hurting feelings, but at least you have empowered the other person with the truth so they can decide for themselves what to feel about you.
At the end of the day you may or may not love yourself but you know you havent cheated.
Why dont you write on truth, the gut wrentching yet the only answer?
SELF LOVE IS ACTUALLY NOT A “SELF” LOVE. THERE IS A SMALL CATCH HERE. IT MAY APPEAR AT THE OUTSET THAT “SELF LOVE” IS LOVING SELF. YES IT IS, LOVING SELF BUT BEOFRE THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION ONE NEEDS TO ANSWER AND UNDERSTAND IS WHAT “SELF” REALLY IS?
“SELF” IS ACTUALLY SELFLESSNESS, EACH BEING IS INFINITE AND EACH BEING IS AT THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE ,WHICH MEANS WE ALL ARE ONE BIG SINGLE UNIT OR WE ALL ARE ONE ELECTRONIC SOUP. IT IS THE ILLUSERY APPEARNCE OF EACH BEING TO OUR SENSE ORGANS THAT CREATES THE IDEA OF DIFFERENT BEING OR DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS.
SO NOW, WITHIN SELF IS EVERYTHING ELSE AND WITHIN EVERYTHING ELSE IS SELF. IN REALITY THERE IS NO SELF. THIS IS JUST A STATE OF BEING. THIS STATE OF BEING IS LOVE. IT JUST IS.
WE LOOK AT THE WORLD THROUGH OUR IDEAS, BELIEFS AND PAST EXPERIENCES AND TO EACH OF US THE WORLD APPEARS DIFFERNENT. IF ONLY WE COULD TRANSEDENT THIS ELLUSIOARY APPAERENCE WE WILL COME TO KNOW, YOU AND ME, THIS TREE ,THIS MONTAINM RIVERS, THE SKY , THE MOON, THAT SWINGING BLADE OF GRASS IS ALL NOTHING BUT SELF.
IN OTHER WORDS SELF LOVE CAN ONLY BE EXPERIENCED BY BECOMING SELFLESS AND IT IS THE EXPERIENCE THAT WILL BRING CHANGE IN OUR PERCEPTION. OTHERWISE THIS IS JUST ANOTHER INTELLECTUAL ACROBATICS.
AT THE END, YOU ARE PERFECTLY RIGHT, WHOLE AND COMPLETE FROM WHERE YOU LOOK AT IT…………….JUST BE.
LOVE
ARUN
Dear Naz,
I am almost sure we know each other(1997-?): <-> Sudheer h/o Seema and f/o Vishal Varier
Please reach me on sudheer.varier@gmail.com
Dear Naz,,,,,
Happy to see ur views after 14 years,,,,,,BUT LOVING SELF,,,,what prompted u>>>>>>>>>.
Reach me on sahilu12@gmail.com
Nayim
Hi Naaz,
I am convinced that the journey to loving ur self is the most fulfilling experience. It is truly worth pursuing. However i feel, our lives are often inter-connected with some really important people in our life; their journeys and struggles seem to make us feel happiness and pain as much as our own do. Does that mean we do not love self and are obssessed with others/objects as you said in your blog? Let me rephrase , is this an illusion that we 'love'others or is it equivalent to 'selflove' and should one pursue such love for others which brings pain at times but is after all(as i see it) a big part of this life we are given by God?
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